Food, water, and shelter. Without them, you’re dead. If you don’t have them, you’ll spend all your time, energy, and resources trying to get them. Because you need them to survive.
If you’re in survival mode, and your friend calls, wondering if you can hang out, you’ll probably ask for help, and barring that, say “no, thank you”. Perhaps you’ll explain that you’ve got more urgent things to take care of before getting together to watch the Oscars.
Some needs trump others, as even this simple example shows.
In 1943, a psychologist named Abraham Maslow published a model of human needs that established a three-part hierarchy, which he represented with a pyramid: a set of “basic needs” at the bottom, “social needs” in the middle, and “self actualization” needs at the top.
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